So I'm a little late responding to Amy Chua's article in the WSJ about "Why Chinese Mother's are Superior." It's taken me a while to put my finger on exactly what my beef is with her parenting style (or should I say, to decide which beef is the biggest). Well, it just dawned on me as I was doing squats to Pink's "So What" at the gym...
Here is the distinction: there are parents who think their children OWE them -- and there are those who don't. That's an oversimplified generalization, blah blah blah, but that's it in a nutshell.
My sister always said, contrary to popular belief, that having kids is the most selfish thing you can do. After all, it's all for you. I could not agree more. For the Tiger parents in the world, the child is lucky to have been given life and is indebted. INDEBTED to them.
Perform! Bring pride and bounty to the family -- or else!!
There is nothing wrong with pushing your kids to achieve more, but at what cost? At the end of the day, the most successful people in the world are not the ones who have memorized the most facts, scored the highest on the SAT, or married the wealthiest man; rather, it's those who have a love for their passion and pursue it at all costs.
So Amy Chua, here is what I say to you: your obsession with achievement and perfect in your children is nothing short of psychotic. At the end of the day, it's for you, not for them.
Agree? Disagree? Let's hear it.