Parents, congratulations. All of you.
You’ve made it past a critical point: the dreaded 4th trimester – colic, being up all night, getting your nipples chewed raw, blowout poops, endless crying…yeah, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
It might not all be over, but the worst is definitely behind you.
Thus begins a new era: getting your life back. Getting your toes done. Having a date night (what?). Buying some new clothes. Having sex (okay, let’s not go TOO overboard here). For many, this also means going back to work (ugggggh!).
You may have noticed lately that your 3 month old is much more alert and energetic. No more blank stares; she looks into your eyes and smiles now. THAT, dear friends, is pretty awesome. You may have even heard your first giggle. Hopefully by now, she’s also on (somewhat) of a predictable, 3-nap-a-day schedule, but if not, don’t sweat it.
If you work from home, like many people these days (thanks, COVID!), this is the point where getting things done is getting a lot more difficult (you didn’t think the all-day-napping-thing would last forever, right?)! Even if you’ve mastered typing and breastfeeding at the same time, it’s damn near impossible to work from home. Yup, time to get help! But how do you go about getting help during a global pandemic, you ask?
The kind of help you’ll need will depend on the amount of work you’ll need to do. Of course, you can hire a sitter (sorry, bank account!), but if you’re not comfortable with that option due to health reasons, you will need to get creative. For example, if your partner also works from home, you can come up with a shift schedule whereby you each take turns taking care of your little one (sharing childcare duties with your partner? We know, quite revolutionary… sigh!). Or if you have a fellow mom friend whom you’d be comfortable “bubbling with,” you could come up with a swap system.
Whatever you choose, there’s no right or wrong answer here. No one is doing this the way they would have wanted to. So just remember to think about what you need and what you are comfortable with.
Are you leaning towards getting a sitter? Check with friends and neighbors, contact your local mother’s group, or go online to services like Care.com, UrbanSitter, Sittercity, etc. The aforementioned sites can also guide you through their COVID protocols, which can provide you with some reassurance.
At this age, your 3 month old will enjoy some additional stimulation in his daily life. Listening to music. Swatting at toys. Walking to the coffee shop. Playing peekaboo. You name it.
Mobiles are also really fun at this age. A crowd favorite is the Tiny Love Meadow Days Soothe ‘n Groove Baby Mobile
I also like the rudimentary Wimmer-Ferguson Infant Stim-Mobile.
Another cool one is the Shiloh Plush Musical Mobile
Note: These all require a crib.
In 3 months from now, your baby will be sitting up and starting solid foods. Can you imagine? For now, enjoy your chubby little back-lying toe-sucker. They grow up fast!
Congrats to you, Mom and Dad! Pat yourself on the back for making it through the 4th trimester. You did a great job. 😉
Onward and Upward!